I’ve had many a client state, “I never realized that my thinking was holding me back and viewed my results from an angle of congruency.”
If you want results in time, money, energy, or even with your teams. The question is:
Are you congruent in your thoughts, words, and actions to arrive at those results? Most of us aren’t.
Here are some common examples of how incongruency shows up:
Scenario 1: Perhaps you have a revenue goal that feels like a stretch. You then begin feeling a little fear about it start to creep in and you focus on what you are worried about. Maybe it’s about your marketing or about having to call on some other business owner and you procrastinate doing it. Maybe you put out some emails and then never properly follow up with the people you know you need to follow up on, making the excuse that you don’t have time.
Scenario 2: Perhaps you want your team to perform at a certain level, but never truly step into the leadership role they need to achieve it. OR you want to be heard in boardroom and feel as if you never find your voice because you don’t feel confident enough.
Scenario 3: You want to be healthier – and then don’t put the support systems in place to be healthier. Unhealthy eating patterns along with lack of exercise continue. This is an example of incongruent actions that take you away from your stated goal.
Scenario 4: You are upset with the leadership in your company and hold conversations in your head with them, but never give voice to. The conversations all stay in your head. You find more and more evidence each day to support your belief that leadership is a jerk.
All of us could stand a big dose of congruency. Not getting your thinking in alignment with your desired outcomes results in a life and career that are diluted.
What are you willing to do right now to get into congruency with what you want?
It all begins in your head. Thinking is different than having thoughts. Thoughts are passive, feeding off of your past experiences and the opinions of others. Thinking engages you to challenge the thoughts and beliefs you are experiencing.
Thinking puts you in the driver’s seat. Once you get control of your thinking, use it when thoughts try to take over; results then have a pathway to show up. You create the room needed for the results to flow in. It’s like “thinking forward”rather than standing still and watching things go by – you actually get in flow with the movement toward what you want and cause movement in the midst of it all in the direction you want that flow to go.
Thinking forward is like exercising – it takes commitment and persistence to get a new habit of it. You no longer get halted by old thoughts that try to creep in. The old habit of buying into thoughts and backing down ceases.
About Lora Newman:
Lora Newman, M.S., LPC, is a Mastery Certified Coach, and Founder/CEO of Zero2Sixty Performance Coaching, llc, a national company currently serving clients in 22 states and three countries. Lora has been helping Business Leaders bust through the barriers holding them back in business and in life for more than 18 years.
She has gained notoriety as the Founder of The 48 HR Breakthrough™ 2-day intensive where business leaders learn to replace obstacles and problems with creative, strategic thinking so they can increase business revenue, lead teams with ease, and enjoy more freedom.
Lora received her B.S. in Psychology from Drury University and an M.S. in Counseling from SMSU (now MSU.) She is a graduate of Coach U Coaching School, and is a member of the International Association of Women in Business Coaching. Lora holds duel certifications in EAGALA (Equine Assisted Growth and Learning Association) as a Certified Professional and a Certified Corporate Professional.